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September 22, 2020

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So Many Near Occasions of Sin.

Once when I was in my mid-twenties I tried to shame a well-dressed man my mother’s age for taking two newspapers for the price of one out of the vendin machine. It turned out he wasn’t the type to shame easily and he tried to shame me back, but it didn’t work.

I have no idea if that has any connection to your story.

I keep having all these pre-fights in my head, ready to launch at the no-maskers, and then in the wild I don't have the gumption or will to put up a fight. Would I make it worse by inviting people to talk unmasked in confined indoor spaces? Would it make the cashier's job worse if I spoke up, even though it's their constant exposure I'm thinking of.

The thing I keep coming around to is that the mask gives us the freedom to do more of our daily activities without fear of rampant spread. When one person decides not to, it chinks away at everyone else's precautions.

I do wish someone would be maskless with my 4 yo around. He notices everything and would comment on it. I would love to bust out the preschool logic of wearing a mask as a sign of responsibility.

But I'll probably chicken out. O Lord, grow me a spine, please and thank you.

I can only muster a tiny iota of sympathy for her because you wrote "with a bit of a quiver in her voice." Perhaps she learned a little about how to stand up for herself that day, which is a good thing for a young woman to learn.

But I am 100% with you about compliance with posted rules. Argh.

I don't know why 20 y/os seem to have such a problem with it. They are the group I see in NYC flagrantly going out in groups and no one wearing a mask. I do know people who have a version of pathological demand avoidance and being told to do something really makes them lose it. I feel some sympathy.

They say we need 80% adherence to bring down transmission rates. In fact, that woman should have refrained from going to Target if she chose not to wear a mask.

I am a rule-follower too. Heck, that's my job. But like Colette, I don't ever say anything to the no-mask people because I am not brave enough and anyway it rarely ends well. At this point, I feel like if someone is not wearing a mask, they are doing it For a Reason and talking to them is not going to help anything.

Also like Colette, my 10yo DID speak up when my husband took him to the barber and two older gentlemen were maskless. My husband said it was a sight to behold.

I can't figure out what sympathy to give to the 20yo. That's the rule. You broke it. It is, in fact, your right to not wear a mask, but if you choose not to, there are consequences, such as getting talked to or even getting kicked out of the store.

"The thing I keep coming around to is that the mask gives us the freedom to do more of our daily activities without fear of rampant spread. When one person decides not to, it chinks away at everyone else's precautions."

This is the frustrating thing for me. If we'd done what we needed to do early on it might not be so much of an issue now.

I had to get off a thread on FB today that kicked me into fight-or-flight. I'm generally great at being challenging but kind and being able to cope with the pushback. Not today.

Person posted about how unfair it was to force people to close businesses. I asked what about the people who are forced to work when they didn't feel safe. Ugh...the privilege dripping all over. I had to bow out.

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