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March 10, 2015


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I think you already know this, but you are my absolute favorite blogger. One day in The Future, Erik and I would like to have a child and I think parenting seems so daunting. But reading these posts (and the others you have published on Rearing of Wild Children) makes me feel like it is something that I can achieve. There's no gain in reading blogs (or speaking to parents) that make it seem like it's easy. Acknowledging the difficulties and explaining how you moved past them is key, and I appreciate that you take the time to write 1200 word blog posts.

I am a longtime reader and lurker here, now mother of young child: PLEASE write more of this. Possibly a whole book. These specifics are incredibly useful and helpful. I will be re-reading, printing out, and posting on the fridge.

*I* read 1200 word blog posts. Well I also write them so I'm not the average.

This is fantastic. I am still learning how to inhabit motherly authority and not to inhabit "my explosion is bigger than yours" authority. The hardest thing for me is to continually remember how long they need me to get up and physically help them comply.

I think attempting to multitask parenting is a big modern problem. Our society crams the schedule so full that multitasking is required to survive, but children can't cope with it.

Most blog posts are way too short. Please continue writing proper-length blog posts!

I read them! And am now going to think about this carefully and slowly. Thank you so much.

I read every word. Thank you.

Oh I read this and it was EXACTLY the kind of thing I was hoping for. Thank you. I can't wait to hear more.

Thank you Jamie! You're just a little further down the road than I am, and your parenting looks like mine started out to look, so thank you for helping me find my way back.

Please write more of these vignettes.

I read 1200 word bog posts! Especially yours. Your words help me. Keep them coming, please. =)

What a nice post! You packed a lot in there!

Mutual respect - such an important foundation in our relationship with our child. Even when they are very small, we must respect them as a person.

Trying to accommodate a child's reasonable requests - there's give and take in the day to day life, and to try to see things from your child's perspective, and to try to be flexible, when possible.

And I love the library story. Stay longer and have fun if you can. But if you have to leave, then leave.

God bless you, Jamie!

Chiming in to say I read them too! Do you think your younger children were quicker to understand the whole authority thing? Were you better at it, or were your older children a good model? My oldest (4) is going through a really defiant NO period. His brother (2.5) is naturally more compliant, but definitely follows the leader. So all of a sudden I've got two nope kids as well as an infant, and, well, they know they've got the upper hand!

I feel Unoriginal, but I'm just echoing Jenny. I'm still
Learning how not to do the my explosion is bigger than yours. I'm definitely learning that even bigger kids still need help sometimes even with tasks they've usually mastered when they are tired or hungry or out of sorts. And I'm much more likely to explode when I'm distracted or multitasking. But it's also so so much easier now that I have big kids. When my oldest was three and I had a toddler and a newborn I really needed my three year old to be able to do things in her own I didn't have enough hands and if we were in a hurry she still needed so much help. I was so impatient with her. But I don't know if I've become so much less impatient as much as that I've now got a competent 8 year old and 7 year old and 5 year old who can all find the toddlers shoes and put them on her in a pinch. When they were all tiny and it was all on me and I was still learning what they needed I made so many mistakes in estimating what was reasonable to expect from my oldest. It's so much easier now with the little ones and I've even learned to give the oldest a break in the days when she's not up for being the responsible big kid.

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