I have a kid whose friend group blew up when one friend accused another of a crime. We're not talking a casual accusation; we're talking charges pressed. My kid would like to continue to be friends with both parties, and I am not entirely sure how to proceed. No, scratch that. I am completely in the dark about how to proceed.
I wouldn't have said it was easy to deal with kids who kept peeing on the floor, but peeing on the floor was a low-stakes kind of problem.
I have an acquaintance who frustrates me on a regular basis. Years ago I posted here about something she told me and you guys left me a bunch of gobsmacked cannot-even-believe-she-would-say-that comments, but it was a totally normal thing for her to say. Once in confession I was talking about failures in charity when the priest said, "Maybe you can spend less time with that person," and I thought, "Ahaaaaa, maybe I can spend less time with that person! What a genius idea!" It was a great idea. Charity is easier in small doses.
Today I learned that I'm going to be seeing her much more frequently.
To be a Christian is to believe in second chances. No, that's wrong. To be a Christian is to believe in four-hundred-ninetieth chances. And yet-- I'm not sure how to weigh up the risks of offering second chances in these situations versus the risks of withholding second chances.
I'd appreciate advice and/or prayers.